9. Building Rock Star Resilience

Listen to Building Rock Star Resilience with Em Capito LCSW, MBA, RYT

In the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic, my perspective continues to evolve. There are times that I have felt tremendous gratitude, connection, presence, and other times of sadness, fear, and loneliness. I’ve started to contemplate the things in my life that I really do have control over. It might have taken an earthquake (and more than enough aftershocks) in the midst of a pandemic to realize how little control I do have. One foundation that I keep coming back to that has given me stability is my mindfulness practice. I can’t change what will happen but I can choose how I respond. I’m also reminded of the resilience that each of us has within us. No matter what our age, we can overcome obstacles and find joy despite our trials.

When it comes to the power of resilience, I knew exactly who I wanted to interview! Em Capito LCSW, MBA, RYT might argue that we find meaning in life in spite of our trials. Em is an unconventional psychotherapist specializing in holistic mind-body resilience, in particular through intentional discomfort, highlighted in her recent TEDx talk on Resiliency Field Trips. Em is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, a certified LifePower yoga teacher, and a Dharana Method meditation teacher with a private practice in South Jordan.

I invite you to listen to my interview with Em: Building Rock Star Resilience. Em will guide us on how we can navigate this time with a “hero’s journey” mindset. My hope is that you will also realize how far you have come, how resilient you truly are, and the innate wisdom you already embody.

Here are a few of the topics we cover in the interview:

  • The power of Resilience
  • The Hero’s Journey Framework
  • COVID-19: what is in our control
  • The importance of creating healthy routines
  • You are an “expert” on you
  • Hierarchy of Resilience
  • and much more…

8. How to Find Presence as a Parent During Challenging Times

Listen to How to Find Presence as a Parent During Challenging Times with Cathryn Lokey, MS/Ed.S

It is March 2020 and we are in the middle of a pandemic. These are particularly challenging times, for all of us, there is no question.

How do we find peace and presence ourselves and with our children during these unpredictable times?

I cannot think of anyone more appropriate than Cathryn Lokey, MS/Ed.S, to dive into this complex topic with me. Cathryn worked as a school counselor for 12 years where she designed and implemented an innovative school-wide guidance and counseling program with a foundation in mindfulness. Cathryn recently gave a talk for the TEDxFSU conference, in which she spoke about her passion for children, the importance of compassion, and the vital need for courageous approaches to solving current social problems. Currently, she is pursuing her PhD in Learning and Cognition at Florida State University and conducting research on children’s perceptions of mindfulness and their experiences of its practices.

Discussion points

  • How do we talk to children about the current pandemic
  • How do children respond during times of stress
    • Different approaches for times of mild and extreme stress
    • How stress impacts our ability to learn
    • Children sharing their feelings is a privilege
  • Permission to let go of parent guilt
    • Should academic progress be the biggest focus right now?
    • The most important thing we can learn from this experience is to love unconditionally
  • Recognizing our judgments about our own emotions
    • All emotions have value
    • Asking yourself, is this an appropriate emotional response to what is happening?
    • Our brains are wired for negativity
  • What are the impacts of stress on the body
  • Our individual state is powerful.
    • The science of Heart Math
    • ‘We don’t always have to be “doing something” to make a big difference. When we release resistance and calm ourselves, doing our best, without judgement, it has an impact on ourselves and others and, some scientists say, the world.’ -Cathryn Lokey
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